… especially around the single ladies”, I knew this guy was thinking after a blank stare as we talked about how he couldn’t take his kids to go ride go carts because they were all grown up, and I mentioned grandkids. He had asked before this how old my son was and commented on what a great age that was because after that they get an attitude. Then thoughtfully he added he had a friend that had very nice kids that didn’t have an attitude. I asked him about the father’s personality. He said that he did things with his kids, but so did he. But this guy had the challenge of raising 3 boys by himself and the mom pretty much abandoned them.
“That had to be very hard to do.” I said, “You know your kids probably felt rejected and their defense was to reject others before people can reject them.”
He said, “You know that makes sense. You could help people with stuff like that.”
“I like to read articles about it. One way around that would be to do 3-5 helpful things a day, so they see you are there to help; even if it is as simple as getting a glass of water.”
He put his hand on the counter and said, “Thank you”.