Here is an article that grabbed my attention, and after reading it my brain was arguing unknowns and feeling so much information was left out. What can anyone do, right?
Then, I found this video. I was surprised to see that such a small percentage of people liked it, because I thought Gabor was very inciteful. Basically, he was saying people get chronically ill, because in the process of serving others, they forget about themselves. They learn to suppress their most basic feelings/needs as babies to maintain a connection with the people they cannot live without, because it is a survival instinct.
The conclusion is optimistic and simple. If you want to heal, be aware of the other survival instinct: the connection with yourself and what you need.