10 Tips to Practice Happiness

What gives people the motivation to start a career, or start a business? How do people have the gumption to get up in the morning to make their bed in five minutes as part of their routine? Before reading Millionaire Success Habits, by Dean Graziosi, I probably would have just grumbled at those questions, because that’s just the default way I have perceived my world so far. But now I know: one has to consiuosly, tenaciously practice happiness. I’m going to be replacing those energy zapping thoughts and emotions with these 10 tips. Now, I can reread them until I can recall them as tools in my mental toolbox:

1. Define what happiness looks and feels like to you. What brings you peace and makes you smile? What purpose gives your life meaning? What are you thankful for? Make a list, and add too it often. Know that what makes you happy will change as you change in life.

2. Make the present your friend, and be happy today. If you’re having a bad moment, then it’s ok to take comfort in the thought that every day is different, or that you and your friend have tickets to a great show Friday. Just don’t tell yourself you have to wait for some life altering event to happen like kids moving out or buying your own place to finally be happy.

Please, don’t spend too much time fretting that you can’t get into your usual hobbies. Keep trying to find positive, productive things that will lift your spirit. Maybe you’re tired of music today because it’s reminding you of a fight, are too blue to go to the gym because there is music playing, but maybe calisthenics and push ups at home would work. Can’t get into guided meditation to change your mood? Have a creative/artistic block? Maybe reading how to speed read and why it’s important is just the thing to give you hope for the future. Or maybe trying a new craft might be a new discovery to share/inspire friends on social media, or have more skills to attract money in the market place.

There are benefits to seeing a talent through 10,000 hours of practice over many years. But, it’s ultimately up to you how much you stretch your limits and focus on getting better in the present moment that adds up over time. Remember when you learned a new thing and that moment was full of excitement?

3. Stop unproductive over-thinking. All day everyday we are thinking. It is the key to our emotions, so I’ve been being more aware of learning new things by reading instead of beating myself up with “shoulds” and things that I think will prequalify me to be able to do something. It’s worth giving something a try to see what’s truly needed to do something. Know it’s never too late to learn new things especially if you have strengths that could be applied to other areas.

Don’t assume anything. One angry customer does not mean every customer will be angry, especially after you learn more about how to help them. Someone in a bad mood may have a health issue, like a broken bone. Deleted comments may be a spam filter. And someone being nice may just be a genuinely nice person.

4. Focus on the positive outcome. For those who have drove in their life–we’ve all had that experience: something catches our eye and our vehicle like magic starts drifting that direction.

Now, visualize where you want to succeed, what makes you happy, the next steps, and the next thing you know, you’ll have a new trick/idea to work on and get better at.

Protect your peace. Negative stuff is going to scream for your attention, you may even try to control other’s negativity (like me writing this article, oops). After the point of sharing what I think may work for me though, I’m just going to let negativity pass by; especially if I have no control over that situation. The more we practice focusing on happiness, that’s where our vehicles will go.

5. Let go of specific outcomes. Hold on to dreams loosely, because you may have to brainstorm to make them better, and ride a new current.

6. Don’t be afraid to fail. I tell my son, each failure is a step towards success. Sometimes you need to rule out how not to do something before honing in on the perfect technique. Be proud that you tried at an opportunity, and look for the lessons.

7. Let go of grudges. I’m going to use a computer metaphor here: Clear up some RAM for good stuff. Take a deep breath, clear the cache, history, close/delete useless programs, and let those cookies expire.

8. Be grateful for what is in front of you. Got some walls around you protecting you from the bitter cold wind? I don’t care what’s going on with or around me, after working nights; the greatest place in the world is a soft mattress, with nice sheets, and fluffy blanket and pillow.

About to pop off and quit? Think about all those paid bills or the ones that are outstanding. That saved me from making a rash fool of myself at work when I was starting out. After some time had passed, things weren’t as biting anyways, and I was thankful I was able to prove to myself I could stay calm in that moment; that’s a plus one for confidence.

9. Don’t settle for “good enough”. Strive for the next level in skills. If you’re not feeling appreciated, then show others you trust and you know love you unconditionally that you want to improve the relationship. Find opportunities to share fun.

Prove to yourself that you are awesome. Do the best you can. Put your best foot forward.

10. Be part of something bigger. It could be spiritually, or in purpose. What makes you feel you made the world a better place?

Have a purpose? Find that emotional motivation to see you through the storm using this method.

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My Super Hero Name

One day my boyfriend said he was playing a game with all his friends. The deal is finding your super hero name based on what you’re afraid of, and then your gender. I decided upon Man Woman.

Oddly enough, I do gravitate towards not being that feminine. Sometimes it looks strange when I wear something feminine. Maybe it’s the short hair, I don’t know. It just doesn’t look right.

Most of my pants I got from my boyfriend, and I think they look great as opposed to the current jegging style. I have a pair of generic black ones, and they’re not too bad. Anyways, it’s just a costume.

My superpowers just might be inuition, cleaning up, independence, or my fluid nuetral nature. I’m passively positive, etc.

Maybe I should rename my name Love Woman, Social Woman, or better yet: Awkward Person (lol). Thinking for a long time about it, I’m not really afraid of dudes. It’s just easy to blank out when put on the spot. I know am far from being only one of few who feels anxiety. Maybe you already understand that the most painful pain comes from the inside, even though now I just find myself laughing about odd stuff that doesn’t make any sense.

Maybe I am afraid of everyone in general. I want to give a helping hand to someone who falls down, but I just kinda hover about trying to see if that would be appropriate. It’s terrifying to just jump right in and be like, “Here I’ll help you,” because I know it is very possible I’ll be met with a,

“Leave me alone, I got it!”

And that would be awkward.

Do you have any tips for getting the brain back and working again?

Dream…

I finally got 8 hours of sleep this week. Drop the confetti, “Yay!!!” The commons simulated in the unconscious receiving fabrics in my skull had something to say, though I don’t want to agree I have that problem, and I could feel my arms and neck tensing and my neck hurts, probably inflammation from my immunity –I guess. There is still a good lesson in here somewhere, though. The scene was basically driving around the country under the pretence of picking something up before work, I was surprised to end up in town to pick up my son, “How did this road lead to here?”

Anyway, the real value was the song on the radio. I hated it, “You just want my shell…” Blah!…

I understand that we can mentally catagorize ourselves under 3 types of beingness: Mind, body, spirit : father, son, and holy ghost : Higher Self, Middle Self, Animal : Superego, Ego, Id : etc. And they are different from person to person. Some individuals may have a very naughty or angry child self (from neglect or being chastised) that seeks to sabotage the unity, and some people may deny any higher ideals leaving them lost without guidance.

But, here’s something new I learned revisiting Quaker history by reading to my son about it: that we are one whole package, this is labeled as physicality. I never thought about Quakers in my life too much, but I could relate with the quake, and how it makes one a better person. Reading about them, I learned something new–they are named Quakers because they quake at the word of God. They are also interpreters of the bible, meaning, they see it as a guiding words (not a pledge of loyalty) from the inner lights of others. They don’t go by the Bible as literal as the Puritans did.

My son asked me, “Do you believe in God?” He had to ask that because we go to church on occasion to learn something new, but I generally don’t talk about it. But I quickly responded, “yes, but not like anyone might think, that he is so personified, but that it is ingrained in our design. I don’t know about consiousness after death. It makes sense to me that the only reason I am a seeing, thinking, doing being is that I have a body with which allows me to.” And reflecting on my dream, I have knowledge, but apparently something in my brain likes to contradict it. I have no doubt other creatures can pick up on my perceptions through hearing, smelling, seeing, symbols, empathy, and perhaps even psychometry (knowing things from feeling). And we all have these abilities, they just need to be developed through practice and perhaps using a scientific method. But, we probably just use these tools in a much subtler fashion, as intuition, to make decisions of preference or trying to figure out what might have made someone upset.

Questions to Ask to See How Well Grounded

• What qualities would help you be more patient with yourself and others?

• What do you feel is missing in your support system?

• Do you have your bases covered such as shelter, food, water, and the ability to obtain what you need in times of crisis?

• Do you feel that you need to change anything in your life for your dreams to come true?

As I was reading The Complete Guide to Chakras, by Ambika Wauters, I felt compelled to spend some time answering these questions while listening to some root chakra meditation music. Then, I watched a couple videos I had never seen about balancing this chakra.

Finally, I watched one on transmuting excess/pent up energy into something useful. Those things included aggressive exercise (punching a punching bag), cardio (walking, running, dancing), relaxing exercise (yoga, tai chi, balance, skill) meditation (like observing and letting go of thoughts), doing something creative (abstract painting, music), having fun (climbing, boating…), and meditating on feeling the energy rising back up to the heart chakra.

I like these questions because they get me thinking about the practical things I already know. I can use these questions to intuitively infer how to help myself in difficult situations. And finally, I can see what I need to study to create a more peaceful, structured, secure, furfilling life for myself. And I liked the last video because maybe I’ll think of something like these things to put into my schedule. For now it’s walking around my house minimizing clutter. There really is no limit to the amount of answers to these questions, each one being helpful in different given situations.

Healing Chakras

Reading about chakras has kept me interested to continue learning more about them because I see how they effect our health and well being. Experience for yourself how thinking, learning, and reading about chakras can help you achieve a bit more peace each time you find yourself out of sorts.

This book explains what chakras are and their relationship to consciousness in the spiritual dimension. Each Chakra has an *endocrine system and organs it has effects on. The book is full of symbols and associations that bring a deeper awareness to healing. This book is a great reference book when you need to remember to take time to meditate, affirm yourself, and protect/seal energies.

What is your favorite source about chakras?

*Endocrine system: where hormones are produced and released.

10 Minutes of Meditation • Chill the Anxiety Challenge Day 8

Have you ever tried a guided meditation? Search for a useful one that you need. After you listen, then you will know a new meditation and can go solo with it when ever you have time to sit down to rest, and if the meditation is just basic relecting/thinking then maybe while washing or chores. Just avoid changing breathing or visualizing while driving because it can make one light-headed, forgetful, and you might not see something important in the present moment (like a pedestrian or motorcycle). Listed below are some different types of meditations. When you open your eyes and move on to your next task you’ll notice you feel more relaxed and clear minded than before.

Observe the breath, try different breathing techniques. Deep breathing dissolves bad feelings, provides mitochondria with oxygen to make energy more efficiently, helps nervous system function better, and balances ph levels in body fluids by releasing carbon dioxide.

Observe thoughts as they pop up How do they make you feel? Are they true? What would you say if a child said them to you?

Observe feelings in parts of your being. What can you do to feel better?

Comfort inner child

Meet a guide

Aura cleanse. Clean away energies no longer of service to being. Every organ has it’s own energy. The endocrine system relates to chakras, each hormone secreting gland controls different aspects of the being.

Sheild yourself. We all want to help others, but ask questions and descipher why a person is trying to make their problems known to you. What do the want from you? Would following their wishes get you in trouble? Prevent yourself from getting used. Create an imaginary filter around your energies to prevent other’s negative energy from effecting your energy.

Unattatch from nonuseful/hurtful ideas, things, people, identities

-Find a purpose

-play out cause and effects.

-Visualize solutions

Strenthen focus and working memory. Practice math like multipling double digits, or division. I split the number by it’s place values and imagine the numbers on each axis of a graph, or window. For example 11 x 11 becomes 10+1×1+10, and using the distributive property multiply 1×1+1×10+1×10+10×10=121. The more you practice remembering these numbers to solve the problems the stronger your focus can be. I have observed that it can be used like a thermometer to test how I am doing as well, since there will be days or times I can think more clearly than others.

Empathize. Put yourself in another’s shoes and try to imagine how they feel. Then call them and ask them some questions about it and see if you were right.

“The greatest relationship you can have is the one with yourself”–Somebody said that. (More self love quotes: https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-mindful-self-express/201210/the-50-best-quotes-self-love)