10 Tips to Practice Happiness

What gives people the motivation to start a career, or start a business? How do people have the gumption to get up in the morning to make their bed in five minutes as part of their routine? Before reading Millionaire Success Habits, by Dean Graziosi, I probably would have just grumbled at those questions, because that’s just the default way I have perceived my world so far. But now I know: one has to consiuosly, tenaciously practice happiness. I’m going to be replacing those energy zapping thoughts and emotions with these 10 tips. Now, I can reread them until I can recall them as tools in my mental toolbox:

1. Define what happiness looks and feels like to you. What brings you peace and makes you smile? What purpose gives your life meaning? What are you thankful for? Make a list, and add too it often. Know that what makes you happy will change as you change in life.

2. Make the present your friend, and be happy today. If you’re having a bad moment, then it’s ok to take comfort in the thought that every day is different, or that you and your friend have tickets to a great show Friday. Just don’t tell yourself you have to wait for some life altering event to happen like kids moving out or buying your own place to finally be happy.

Please, don’t spend too much time fretting that you can’t get into your usual hobbies. Keep trying to find positive, productive things that will lift your spirit. Maybe you’re tired of music today because it’s reminding you of a fight, are too blue to go to the gym because there is music playing, but maybe calisthenics and push ups at home would work. Can’t get into guided meditation to change your mood? Have a creative/artistic block? Maybe reading how to speed read and why it’s important is just the thing to give you hope for the future. Or maybe trying a new craft might be a new discovery to share/inspire friends on social media, or have more skills to attract money in the market place.

There are benefits to seeing a talent through 10,000 hours of practice over many years. But, it’s ultimately up to you how much you stretch your limits and focus on getting better in the present moment that adds up over time. Remember when you learned a new thing and that moment was full of excitement?

3. Stop unproductive over-thinking. All day everyday we are thinking. It is the key to our emotions, so I’ve been being more aware of learning new things by reading instead of beating myself up with “shoulds” and things that I think will prequalify me to be able to do something. It’s worth giving something a try to see what’s truly needed to do something. Know it’s never too late to learn new things especially if you have strengths that could be applied to other areas.

Don’t assume anything. One angry customer does not mean every customer will be angry, especially after you learn more about how to help them. Someone in a bad mood may have a health issue, like a broken bone. Deleted comments may be a spam filter. And someone being nice may just be a genuinely nice person.

4. Focus on the positive outcome. For those who have drove in their life–we’ve all had that experience: something catches our eye and our vehicle like magic starts drifting that direction.

Now, visualize where you want to succeed, what makes you happy, the next steps, and the next thing you know, you’ll have a new trick/idea to work on and get better at.

Protect your peace. Negative stuff is going to scream for your attention, you may even try to control other’s negativity (like me writing this article, oops). After the point of sharing what I think may work for me though, I’m just going to let negativity pass by; especially if I have no control over that situation. The more we practice focusing on happiness, that’s where our vehicles will go.

5. Let go of specific outcomes. Hold on to dreams loosely, because you may have to brainstorm to make them better, and ride a new current.

6. Don’t be afraid to fail. I tell my son, each failure is a step towards success. Sometimes you need to rule out how not to do something before honing in on the perfect technique. Be proud that you tried at an opportunity, and look for the lessons.

7. Let go of grudges. I’m going to use a computer metaphor here: Clear up some RAM for good stuff. Take a deep breath, clear the cache, history, close/delete useless programs, and let those cookies expire.

8. Be grateful for what is in front of you. Got some walls around you protecting you from the bitter cold wind? I don’t care what’s going on with or around me, after working nights; the greatest place in the world is a soft mattress, with nice sheets, and fluffy blanket and pillow.

About to pop off and quit? Think about all those paid bills or the ones that are outstanding. That saved me from making a rash fool of myself at work when I was starting out. After some time had passed, things weren’t as biting anyways, and I was thankful I was able to prove to myself I could stay calm in that moment; that’s a plus one for confidence.

9. Don’t settle for “good enough”. Strive for the next level in skills. If you’re not feeling appreciated, then show others you trust and you know love you unconditionally that you want to improve the relationship. Find opportunities to share fun.

Prove to yourself that you are awesome. Do the best you can. Put your best foot forward.

10. Be part of something bigger. It could be spiritually, or in purpose. What makes you feel you made the world a better place?

Have a purpose? Find that emotional motivation to see you through the storm using this method.


Why This Blog Means the World to me (Repost)


Please use the link above to support mental health. You never know who can find comfort, understanding, and hope.

Sometimes, people just want to tell their story. What has worked for them. What hasn’t. And maybe, find a way to see the silver lining.

When things get tough for me, I start reading. Reading is a bit like meditation, only you get to see through other’s eyes, and while reading, negative thoughts have no room. The Polar Writer is one of the sources that I feel help me understand human experiences, and prevent me from using my time to focus on things that do not match with good purpose.

James has really inspired me, because even when things are tough for him, he gets through them. He gets a plan. He follows through and achieves goals despite what pain may be trying to drag him down. Not only that, but he helps others feel heard and valued.

Thank you for taking the time to stop by and read about this.

Much Ado About Vegetables

I imagine that I am going to walk right into that kitchen and chef the heck out of some veggies and just eat them. Shovel those things like it’s my job. Then I walk into the kitchen and my mood is like blah…

Good Brain Cell: We really need to eat more vegetables.

Apathetic Brain cell: There’s powdered carrot in this birthday cupcake. 🙂

Quality Control Brain Cell: These green beans don’t look so good. 😦

Thirsty Brain Cell: There’s vegetables in tea. 🙂

Tired Brain Cell: …Can’t lift bag of kale…

Adventurous Brain Cell: Let’s just go get some motherwort from the back yard.

Blind brain cell: Let’s boil these beets and forget all about them.

Grumpy Brain Cell: We don’t have time for this, just grab something and let’s go!

Now, I need to just clear everything, and start over on a new week.

I’m trying to wrap my mind around how I can turn a bucket of food scraps into this;

Without attracting too many rodents (I know local cats and a certain red shouldered hawk do not mind, but my human neighbors might).

And then I start imagining how I’m going to go outside and start planning out garden beds, and getting soil prepared, allwhile being like Wim Hof:

(As I’m in my house shivering at 65°F looking out my back door)

I slowly get little steps done between a full time job, helping my son with homeschooling, ice skating, cleaning, social media, and uh… etc. How is your vegetable planning going?

Symptoms of a Vitamin D Deficiency

Have you been feeling under the weather–out of sorts? Here’s a reminder to get outside and go for a 30 minute walk during daylight hours twice a week. This is a article written by Sophia Mitrokostas. Some of the symptoms were pretty surprising:

1. Your last cold held on longer than usual. B and T immune cells have receptors for vitamin D. It helps regulate the immune response. Research here shows that defiency in vitamin D correlates with higher rates of sucumbing to pathogens or having an autoimmune response.

2. Feeling a bit blah now that the hours of sun are very few in number? Vitamin D can help lesson symptoms of depression or blues. And who knows, taking time to get some vitamin D may be another way to burn off those extra holiday calories. Maybe I can escape for a run before the they bring the cake out? Geese, I hope I don’t get amnesia.

3. Are you still tired after 7-8 hours of sleep? These signs include chronic fatigue and headaches.

4. Do you have an achy back? Vitamin D is needed to absorb calcium; calcium that could be used to keep your back maintained.

5. Do you get achy joints after working out? Again, vitamin D helps the body absorb calcium and magnesium.

5. Do you get painful or shaky muscles? Keep your nerve cells happy, particularly those nociceptors, which accept pain signals into the central nervous system. Absorb the magnesium you went out of your way to get to have healthy muscles and less charlie horses.

6. It’s rare that just low levels of vitamin D is causing hair thinning, but maybe part of it. It’s normal for hair to shed a bit more in the fall.

7. Trying to heal from a cut or bruise? Vitamin D helps the body produce the compounds needed to renew the skin. Balance is the key.

I really need to get outside and get some sun XD

What’s Going Through Your Mind? • How Cerebral Spinal Fluid is Created, Functions, and Returns to the Blood

For a moment, let’s imagine the skull as a castle. The system of flat outer bones mortarred together with connective tissues is just one example of the mind’s many physical defenses. The choroid plexus in the center of the brain, and arachnoid granulations hovering around the brain as a sheath make up the blood-brain-barrier (1). Zooming in to this area, there are epithelial cells along the blood capillaries that bring in the rations necessary to rebuild and maintain the brain, and while in good working order, keep out the dangerous and unnecessary contents that potentially rush through veins and capillaries during unfortunate times.

Hormones like testosterone and estrogen can pass through the blood-brain-barrier (2).

Histamines and antihistamines in the blood stream should not enter into the brain. The brain makes it’s own histamines in the hypothalamus (3). Oddly enough though, there is contradicting evidence that this does happen during clinical trials for testing medicines/suppliments (4). I’ve recently added chamomile and more mint tea to my agenda hopefully to counteract the couple cups of coffee I use to get me through the morning. One good thing is it keeps me from drinking too much coffee (which has histamines).

The human brain-brain-barrier (choloid plexus) filters in vitamins from the blood stream. The brain especially needs sugars, proteins, fats, potassium, chloroid ions, bicarbonate ions, water, and sodium (5).

Vitamin C can enter the blood-brain-barrier(6) via a glucose transport when it gives up a couple electrons, essientially becoming oxidized, to become dehydroascorbic acid (aka DHA) somewhere in the digestive process when it interacts with glucose and insulin. Once in the brain, it will be turned back into Vitamin C, aka ascorbic acid (7), but too much sugar (not enough insulin) impairs the amount of Dehydroascorbic acid that can be made (please see diagram from previous link)


Feeling depressed or having problems with inflammation? Please consider, and/or talk with your doctor, about foods and vitamins that can help heal any possible problems with the blood-brain-barrier. I found this link to have particularly helpful information for good food and vitamins and their role in helping one feel better (9). What caught my eye was that they found magnesium and B vitamins help heal a leaky blood-brain-barrier. These vitamins are some of the vitamins recommended for those recovering from alcohol dependency (10) and candida (11).

What other things do you know of that can pass through the blood-brain-barrier (more specifically the choroid plexus)?

Since I mentioned inflammation, this reminded me of a sad movie about a reporter from the New York Post: Girl With the Brain on Fire. It takes you through her story and recovery. This is the dark side of the immune system. Here is the trailer, but if you’re not ready for the suspense and drama, you probably don’t want to watch it. It’s a bit more spooky and strange seeing actual footage of her on YouTube about it.

Healing Chakras

Reading about chakras has kept me interested to continue learning more about them because I see how they effect our health and well being. Experience for yourself how thinking, learning, and reading about chakras can help you achieve a bit more peace each time you find yourself out of sorts.

This book explains what chakras are and their relationship to consciousness in the spiritual dimension. Each Chakra has an *endocrine system and organs it has effects on. The book is full of symbols and associations that bring a deeper awareness to healing. This book is a great reference book when you need to remember to take time to meditate, affirm yourself, and protect/seal energies.

What is your favorite source about chakras?

*Endocrine system: where hormones are produced and released.

It Was Just One Piece of Pie

Because it was my birthday celebration, I felt obliged, yet in awe to eat of something I had never seen before: A fluffy jiggly hot pink strawberry cream pie with granola crust. And, it was awesome! Halfway through eating it was trivia time, “Try to guess what I used to make it?”


“No, marshmallows…”

Well, at this point I might as well enjoy this pie. This is only different for me because I have issues from eating dairy and sugar. Such a great hello and goodbye. I didn’t regret it, until the next day, and the next morning. But I can heal and get back from those symptoms.

One of these days I am going to get this right and learn when to get out of the dining area. I would be happy with a granny smith apple for desert. All the effort folks put in to food make it soo magical. Left to my own devices, though, I like food just the way it grew.

Of course there’s always eggs, almond flour, and shredded nonsweetened coconut, or eggs and shredded sweet potato, or even eggs and fried onions and some other chopped veggies…

Is there something that you can not eat without consequences? How do you deal in those times?

Woo Sahh • Anxiety Challenge 20

This day’s challenge is to figure out how to deactivate or neutralize anxieties that were identified the other day. An ordeal can show us important observations. While I was was trying to mind my job one day, my heart feeling like it was frying in a skillet, I remembered an article that I had read. That people who were mindful of their breathing during tough times were found to have more complex brains. I noticed I was not breathing and my focus switched to take a slow deep breath and feeling my lungs stretch as I fill them with air. I could literally feel the pain dissolving from my chest.

Another thing that helped me over time is following an anti-candida diet. Which is basically eating as healthy as possible. The beginning phases may seem too stringent, but it’s only to allow the immunity to focus on the dysbiosis than the molds in foods. This time I got sick I knew I would need to get a more up to date book, so bought The Ultimate Candida Cleanse Diet, by Lisa Richards and Dr. Eric Wood, which was an alright price that includes two other books. One a picture filled recipe book with easy directions, and the other book on beating stress. I know as the months go by I will heal and feel at peace, like I have my sunshine shining warm nice feelings. My thoughts will be more helpful and kind because of the kindness I have shown myself.

As for my money situation I guess I will look around for another opportunity and think about it as one would with chess. I also like to watch YouTube videos on online business and minimalism.

And Finally, just writing helps me feel differently. Once I get it out, and people actually like my writing with which I hope I can make it helpful and not too much of a rant. I feel… happy.

I wrote down all symptoms related to my issue and made a tally from my current symptoms which I will do each Friday to make a health chart.

Get Back to the Good Skills • Chill the Anxiety Challenge Day 18

It was quite the challenge trying to figure out what I’m good at. Over time my interests change so much. It’s hard to know what to say to anyone anymore about me, except where I work and who is in my family.

Can I trust I will go and garden, though I wish to and want to talk about it with people only to be trying to work 3 jobs and keep a house clean? I have 2 associate degrees in things I have no more interest in (Graphic Design, and Industrial Technologdy). At one point I loved art and music. Now, my only hope is that all the time put in learning can be applied to something.

Getting sick does remind me of the basic skills that slowly improve with time. Scouring through websites, and checking out/buying healthy cooking books, and watching YouTube videos have helped open a new world of food and health that doesn’t come out of a box. I definitely know I could be better, but I see how much I have learned since I moved out of my parents house and it’s kinda neat to think about.

Quinoa, motherwort, celery, mint, yarrow, and dandelion

Not making any suggestions, just showing my efforts into creating a better balance so the body has what it needs for a fair fight. This is what has healed me from less painful symptoms. What you don’t see is I have forsaken my fast calorie habits (bread, chips, starchy fruit, large portions of meat, coffee…*update I can’t live without coffee*) for healthier habits like eating low glycemic foods and as much non-starchy veggies as I can chop/grate and throw in a pot to steam. The pain this time around will not be forgotten, and I will do my best not to see healthy food as too expensive.

Time • Chill the Anxiety Challenge Day 17

Car payments, bills, work obligations, housework, homeschool coaching, and so many things I need to do make it a challenge to fit everything in. So much slips away undone. This I think would be great to do when finding time for myself:

-spend it on gathering wild edibles with antifungal properties

-grow herbs like cilantro to chelate the lead lingering in my bones

-And prepare healthier meals for myself, even if I were the only one enjoying them.

I am very proud of how I helped my son keep his interest in school. It takes 100% attention to keep him focused, and I need to get him to practice his multiplication more.

I am glad that I am able to help my parents with bills. That my boyfriend is not loosing his job for not having a car. That I am able to lift the labor burden from others.