Affirm your Great Qualities

Here is a great article from Aishwarya Sha’s blog, Eclipsed Words. It’s about building self-love by giving yourself little reminders of what is great about you, aka affirmations.

Basically, when you are aware of your worth at all times, then no one else can sell you short, or make you doubt that you can handle a certain situation. Because, after all, we change and get better every day with practice, anyway.

So keep inventory:

Are you focused/hard-working, a networking hub, or idea factory?

Is your writing organized/educational or entertaining/cinematic?

Are you great at diffusing difficult situations, kind, good at coming up with win-win solutions, or making everyone laugh?

Put these little reminders somewhere you’ll see them every day, so when you are feeling bad for being in a bad/tired mood, you’ll be reminded of all your good characteristics and you can have faith it will pass. You might even be able to help someone you love feel better about a certain situation that’s bothering them when you remind them of what they have going for them. ❤

What are some ways you remind yourself of your true value? Can you think of 100 great qualities that you have?


Identify Anxieties • Chill the Anxiety Challenge Day 19

Most of the time I am pretty easy going. Generally, I try not to think about things that make me anxious, though I feel that is life. For relevance I will stick to the big things I know probably effect my health or have some sort of relationship to my health.

This is the weirdest anxiety I feel, I can’t understand. It’s a bit like Squidward refusing to eat a Krabby Patty and then one day he eats one, and he loves it and doesn’t want anyone to know, so he tries to go to work early to sneak into the Krabby Patty vault (which only exists in that episode) and SpongeBob catches him, but can’t stop Squidward from inhaling Krabby Patties and exploding from eating too many.

I’m always trying to eat healthy and somehow some other article gets me confused and it sets me back. Sweet potatoes are sweet, but I read about how they are healthy for diebetics and somehow thought that was ok. It’s not really. It’s not on the list for the first phase in any candida diet. But for now I will just glad I got some calories. Before I got sick I thought I was managing things well, but I made a lot of mistakes.

Money is a huge anxiety. I start to figure out how to make more money, but yeah… usually I end up asking my boyfriend for help with food, and then later remind me he helped me with that. I guess all I can say is thank you.

Seeing my boyfriend make a mistake causes anxiety too. Sometimes I don’t know how to word things so they sound helpful. Sometimes he is so tired. And I can understand that. Lately I’ve been trying to understand what is going on with him. I ask questions, and try to inspire him to see different perspectives. But most of the day I’m just trying to be helpful and appreciative. I ask that he keeps trying. I have seen how making an effort to do 3 or so nice things a day for my son has helped him because he puts more effort into doing a good job at school, so I try to me mindful and helpful to see if that will work for my boyfriend too.

100 Things

I love this post about finding 100 things to like about one’s self. Chelsea wrote this in the Bipolar Mental Health Blog. If you find yourself being critical give it a try. I wanted to inspire others with some ideas incase they were having trouble thinking of anything. Are some of these traits you are glad you have as well?

1. Help when possible.

2. Can read.

3. Can write.

4. Enjoy going for a run.

5. Can make someone laugh.

6. Work a job.

7. Keep bills paid.

8. Keep a car maintained.

9. Clean the house.

10. Don’t let other’s opinion define my self.

11. Strive to act with integrity.

12. Happy when others succeed.

13. Seek to comfort.

14. Not judgmental, unless slighted.

15. Still and observant.

16. Can speak in front of crowds.

17. Like to challenge myself.

18. Can cook.

17. Basic knowledge of local plants and their status of edibility and how to prepare.

18. Like to do math.

19. Can plant perennial flowers like irises, mint, oregano, yucca, daylillies, and hostas and they survive.

20. People have paid me money to plant flowers, remove unwanted plants, and spread mulch.

21. Can drive.

22. Feel appreciated by my partner.

23. Appreciate the help of my partner.

24. Cares for pets by providing food and fresh water every day.

25. Can accept my mistakes, avoid them in the future, and warn others so they might prevent the same fate from happening again.

26. In control of my choices.

27. Can organize my priorities and get things done

28. Can identify problems coming up over the horizon and plan accordingly with what resources available.

29. Like to learn new words from other languages.

30. Like to learn about other cultures.

31. Not attached to material things.

32. Take steps to share things I no longer need.

33. Know when and why anger/fear happens, and how to let it go so it doesn’t get in the way of problem solving.

34. Better at saying no without getting stuck in an unwinnable argument.

35. Have stopped over explaining so much.

36. Considerate of others as much as possible for what I am focusing on.

37. Take care of myself.

38. Make healthy choices.

39. Can hear and listen.

40. Worthy to feel dignity.

41. Can accept myself, and be at peace.

42. Don’t have to prove anything outlandish to anyone.

43. Don’t compare myself to anyone.

44. Can enjoy the profound things that people learn.

45. Can do 4 pull ups (not to be confused with dooing in 4 pull-ups, I’ll do that much later).

46. Can do dips.

47. Can do lots of push ups.

48. No longer feel the need to wear push ups.

49. Enjoys the moment

50. Enjoy hating music that cannot be escaped from.

51. Can appreciate new and old music.

52. Have reduced my fossil fuel use, trying to stick to just necessity.

53. Stays out of arguing about politics.

54. Stays motivated, for the most part.

55. Can find things to be interested in.

56. Doesn’t sleep in as horribly as I used to.

57. Seek to improve myself, never giving up on myself.

58. Have hope that I can get better at organizing my time.

59. People pay me to clean.

60. People are impressed with how I keep items stocked during a breakfast buffet.

61. Can type fairly quickly and accurately.

62. Have learned to write better by coaching my son in school.

63. Seeing old aquaintances is a happy discovery for me.

64. Celebrate even small achievements.

65. Can remember my dreams.

66. Still believe in magic.

67. Still read to my son.

68. Love to roller skate and ice skate.

69. Learning to ask more questions to understand things better and help people feel included.

70. I am mindful to keep healthy eye habits such as going for walks without glasses, nutrition, and proper eye rest.

71. I don’t keep stereotypes or opinions outside of context. I keep the benefit of the doubt until I get proof.

72. Pretty good at keeping a budget.

73. Pretty good with logic.

74. Curious

75. Can tolerate some cold.

76. Don’t limit myself.

77. More open to feedback or contructive criticism.

78. Keep a growth mindset.

79. Seek to create unique content while enjoying a conversation with others.

80. Understand how to use AdSense.

81. Could do better with AdSense

82. Have empathy.

83. Am patient.

84. Know how to ask for help in a way others feel needed.

85. Was able to create heat in a thermophilic compost pile.

86. Know the proper technique for kicks, punches, and blocks.

87. Know yoga

88. Understand scales, chords, and music notation.

89. Can keep rhythm on a djembe.

90. Won’t criticize anyone for saying djembe wrong (did that once, it sucked)

91. Always forgive, but don’t always trust.

92. Learned to state expectations.

93. Have worked to understand people better.

94. Give hugs everyday

95. Believe everyone matters.

96. Seek to know thyself

97. Seek to keep the 8 noble paths of buddism

98. Religiously tolerant, but knows to not get used.

99. Love flying spaghetti man.

100. …that one’s a secret. 😉